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Grace. Grace. Grace. Grace. Grace.

Grace is a word I use in almost every session. I have found as high-performing humans we are good at extending grace to others but struggle with showing it to ourselves. Our expectations are high and tolerance for not achieving is low.

The other day I was sitting at my desk, mind racing,thinking of all the things I wanted to get done and focus on and it boiled down to two categories; work and health. I paused and added Grace to the list.

Every day I set goals for both work and health.  There are days I don’t get all my To Dos done for my business. Show myself Grace. There are some days I eat more chips and salsa than I should or skip a workout. Show myself Grace. Even on days I feel like I don’t make progress in either. Show myself Grace.

Health.

Work.

Grace.


What are your key areas of focus in your life at this time ?  


On a good day accomplishing all three is perfection. On a not so good day you can at least accomplish one by showing yourself Grace and coming back stronger in the next moment. Sitting around and beating yourself up and cutting yourself no slack serves no one. To ruminate on what you could or should have done wastes your precious time and holds you back from moving forward.

Show yourself Grace. Give yourself a moment. Move on stronger.  

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Even on days I feel like I don’t make progress in either. Show myself Grace.

Watch Your Mouth

Not the F word because well sometimes it just needs to be said.

I am talking about the words that creep into our daily vocabulary, edge into your psyche and bring down your energy and power. These little words that are unassuming, shifting our mindset without us even knowing it.

Should. Need to. Have to. Try.

These everyday verbs give power to guilt, shame and resentment,making us feel like we are victims to our circumstances. What would it look like if we changed those little word from a feeling of responsibility and resignation to a voice of choice?

I choose to save this money because it’s important to me to build up my savings account.”
vs.
I should put money in my savings instead of going on that trip.”  

It’s important to me to be honest and effective at work so I need to have that conversation with my coworker.”
vs.
I need to have that difficult conversation with my coworker about their performance.”

I want to be healthy in mind and body so I choose to go to the gym today.”
vs.
I have to go to the gym today.”

My intent with my partner is to be patient,supportive and kind.”
vs.
I’ll try to be a more patient, supportive and kind partner.”

My personal favorite is “I get to.”  “I get to pay my bills because I have a job.” “I get to push myself hard at the gym because I have a healthy body.” “I get to have a packed calendar because I have a lot of special people in my life.” It feels a little more of an honor and less of a grind. And it's a simple shift.

I challenge you to take a day and look at how often you use these words. Words have power. Take the power back in small ways and notice the big shift.

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These everyday verbs give power to guilt, shame and resentment,making us feel like we are victims to our circumstances.

Fear: You don’t have to go home – but you can’t stay here

Let’s talk about FEAR.

F-E-A-R.

Fear is sneaky.

It comes up at just the right moment,when you are feeling strong, confident and ready to do something big.

Fear, masked under the pretense of caring about your best interest, mutters:

“Are you sure you can do this?”,

“You’re not experienced/educated/talented enough to.”

There’s no way you can start a family/quit your job/follow your heart”.

Fear creeps in a little at a time and before you know it, has made itself at home in your mind and heart with a blanket, warm cup of coffee, binging on Netflix.  

Why do we welcome this rude little self-serving house guest? Fear may be detrimental to our dreams but at least we know what to expect. We believe it keeps us safe and free from disappointment and embarrassment but really it just handcuffs us from living our life.  

 How do you welcome fear and self-doubt into your life ?

 Is it constant comparison to others online? LOG OUT.

 Is it a friend, spouse, coworker family member whose words make you self-doubt/question your dreams. IGNORE THEM.

Or is it you ? Self-sabotaging, making excuses, ignoring what you know you need to do. STOP IT.

The actions that move us further along in our journey requires nothing more than stopping the things that are holding us back.

So let’s turn up the heat, clear out the fridge and kick fear and self-doubt out of our home.

 

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Fear creeps in a little at a time and before you know it, has made itself at home in your mind and heart with a blanket, warm cup of coffee, binging on Netflix.

I Don’t Care About What You Want To Do

This may seem a little counterintuitive coming from a coach but what you do is not important to me. It makes no difference to me what it is you want to do with this one wonderful life. As a coach what is deeply important to me is who you want to be and what you are doing every day to get there.

What Does Matter…
Who do you want to be?

Whatever your goal is I would bet that’s not the end game for you. You may want to be in better shape, have more money in savings, leave a relationship or transition to a new role but I bet those are not the true goals. Maybe what you are really striving for is being:

  • someone who is an active participant in their life
  • someone who has the freedom and flexibility to travel
  • someone who deserves respect in their relationship
  • someone who is sick of working in a career that is not aligned with their values.

As high performers with big goals and dreams, it’s perfectly normal to focus on doing and achieving, often losing sight of “Is this really who I want to be?”  

Aligning who you want to be with the goals you have set for your life coupled with intention and daily focus behind those are what dreams are made of.

And those dreams are what I do care about.

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what is deeply important to me is WHO you want to be and what you are doing every day to get there.

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